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Wednesday, November 27, 2019

Remaking the Holidays

This year has led to so many changes in our home. Going through weeks of radiation led to another shift in how we approach our days. With the holiday season approaching, it also became necessary to look at our traditions and consider changing things up.


We must be willing to change where we are now to get where it is we want to go. 


It is not enough to say, "This is what we have always done." That is a poor reason to do anything in life. Break down the day. What things serve you? What things fill your soul? What actually matters to you? And what no longer works? 

If something no longer works for us life, we realized it is ok to look at changes that more accurately reflect who we are now. This can mean changes in who we spend time with, how we spend your time, and even how we celebrate. I used to prepare an extensive meal, decorate elaborately, and even do most of the housekeeping. None of those things work for our family any more.

This year, we are changing most of our holiday meal. We are changing when we have family and friends visit. We are changing our gift giving to reflect where we are now. We are taking away things that pull away from what it is we want to accomplish, while leaving room for those things that matter most. 

We need to have reasonable expectations of ourselves and others. 

As we have shaped how we are approaching the holiday, we also needed to set some reasonable standards that reflect our priorities. It is unreasonable to assume that we are the same each day. It is ok to adapt our expectations to the situation. 

High stimulus environments wear me out much faster as I work through layers of light and sound. We have young children in our fmaily, some events are simply not a good fit for us right now. It is ok to adapt how we interact and what we interact with to reflect who we are. 

No apology. No explaination. No agenda necessary. 

When we are adaptable we can expereince the holidays as we are and instead of meeting the expectations of others, we are able to authentically engage with our world. We are able to do what matters most to us, and enjoy this time for celebration as we are today. 

Moving beyond what was, is encouraging us to try new things together. I couldn't be more excited. 




Monday, February 27, 2017

To my surgeon


Dr. [AwesomeSauce];

In May of 2015 you treated me for a cerebellum based meningioma tumor.  You saved my life.  I wanted to thank you for your time, attention, and professionalism in ensuring my ability to live and function on any level.

The past two years have been a journey of ups and downs as I confront limitations, face social stigma, and learn to cope with continued challenges.  One challenge that exacerbated the others is that of being able to seek and find appropriate aftercare and support.  I wrote your office in early 2016 and expressed my dissatisfaction with the follow-up care and communication received from one of your associated nurse practitioners, [hewhoshallnotbenamed].  I was put into contact with [clearandconcise] and have appreciated her candor and clarity.  The difference in care is both startling and disheartening when the two experiences are contrasted.  [clearandconcise]  is exceptional both in her knowledge and in her clear communication.  While I struggle with comprehension, my husband was able to understand what [clearandconcise]  explained, even though it varied greatly from what [hewhoshallnotbenamed]  had communicated with us at initial follow-up appointments.

Through many appointments and working with an exceptional team of professionals at [myhomeawayfromhome], I have been able to adapt to functioning at a basic and simplified level.  I am working with vocational rehabilitation to recover professionally, and with a team of specialists to recover functionally.  I have progressed through physical therapy and occupational therapy and can physically function in most of my daily life.  I continue to work with speech pathology to recover cognitive function and the layered reasoning necessary for higher levels of interaction.  I have adapted to being completely deaf on my left side and have learned to understand the origins and nature of my continued tinnitus.  I am encouraged by assessments and support from [sweetestmanintheworld], the neuropsychologist that you referred me to see.

Over this journey I have found many things; 1. A qualified and experienced neurosurgeon is absolutely vital, 2. Goals and consistent, sustained effort by the patient are necessary, and 3. Recovery is best done with a team of experienced and supportive professionals who help to identify and maintain optimum recovery.  I find that many do not experience adequate recovery services and am concerned that while focused on the surgery itself, access to such services is not utilized as effectively as it can be.  Recovery is based upon two standards; physical recovery from surgery, and then functional recovery with any associated limits and challenges of having a brain injury.  It is this second level of recovery that is currently being underserved.

I am asking for your help in educating and sharing with the medical profession that what is being experienced by patients as “normal” is far below the best interests of the patient.  Simple solutions such as appropriate patient education regarding follow-up care of functional challenges, and monitoring of that care by supervising doctors is lacking.  I understand my case is extreme, that it is not common practice for surgeons to be found through the emergency room and that most patients are referred by other professionals.  What I continue to see from the patient perspective is that the trend to disregard or ignore functional healing is common for those doctors as well.  I am privileged to associate with a variety of patients from across the world, many of whom repeatedly express feelings of abandonment, loss, and disillusionment from their initial providers.  They stop seeking help or searching for answers, leading to a decrease in quality of life and fear of follow-up care and procedures.

My surgery and recovery are a pivotal miracle in my life. Your role as my neurosurgeon remains one of my greatest blessings, my healthcare team is another.  I believe without either of those two components I would not be looking forward to a life of decent quality.  I grieve for patients who express that they avoid appointments because they fear being ignored, dismissed, or hearing of another procedure.  None of these options is ideal and all result in decreased outcomes for brain tumor patients.  The question remains, how do we solve this?

I believe that as patients and providers work cooperatively and engage in open dialogue we can improve outcomes for patients, increase functionality post-treatment, and help both patient and provider engage fully in regaining optimum quality of life.  I ask your help in educating providers on providing follow-up supportive care, and creating a team based approach to functional recovery.  I am not sure of the proper format for this type of conversation, in the social work field I would advocate for presenting at local conferences and meetings of professionals.  Maybe the answer, in this case, is to begin one office at a time.  I propose a three-fold solution.

1.       Patients are provided reviewed and approved information regarding aftercare and recovery, to be given at various points along the healing path such as 14 days, three months, six months, and annually as needed.  Correct information helps answer questions that arise after appointments are concluded and gives patients something tangible to hold on to.

2.       Patients are provided access to and information about recovery supports such as speech pathologists, occupational therapists, audiologists, and physical therapists at their 14 day follow-up appointment. It is very easy to compile information of local providers and provide such information to patients to use as needed.  Patients often do not know what questions to ask or what is even possible; by offering the information providers demonstrate patient concern.

3.       At the earliest opportunity, providers and patients must identify a contact professional who will co-ordinate all care and ensure that the patient receives timely responses for any medication and follow-up care concerns.  This provider receives release of information for all reports and appointments so as to ensure that the patient is maintaining a positive healing trajectory.  This works to allow specialty providers to do what they do best and leaves general providers all the tools that they require to adequately do their job, improving outcomes for both patients and providers.

The changes I have outlined are simple and easy to maintain, taking no more time for providers and helping patients avoid medical burnout, improving outcomes for everyone.  Thank you for your care, for my life, and for taking care of people like me.